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Is MeToo really about Sexual Harassment.... I don’t think so

As MeToo got massive support from media in India, women jumped and spoke pointing fingers at their supposed tormentors, probably seeing this as an opportunity to be heard and to get justice. Secretly on the other hand there is a shift taking place, a dangerous shift. Translucent films from conference rooms are being removed, closed door meetings with women are being avoided, travel arrangements aren’t just based on business needs but whether a women is travelling along or not, misconduct underperformance and development discussions aren’t really limited between the manager and the women, they have a third individual too, and there is talk going around on whether the email data of exited women employees need to be kept in safe custody for an elongated period of time.

As I move around talking to senior business leaders it is not uncommon to see the vulnerability the senior leaders feel when interacting with women employees. As one individual put it beautifully, even income tax defaults can be reviewed till a certain period of time and then we have the opportunity to present my case, whereas in cases like these, Twitter Justice is instant, without any boundaries and the degree of punishment purely dependent on one’s luck.

I don’t think MeToo ever wanted this, a wild west situation where everyone is to themselves, where the audience is really interested in the drama and who won in the drama rather than who gets justice.

It is surprising to see many large and so called ethical companies trying to administer first aid, whether it be Facebook, Google or closer home the Tata’s, all are perceivably concerned at ending Sexual Harassment of Women and state they will ensure women get respect, dignity and all that their corporate communication teams ask them to promise.

But, the fight isn’t at the superficial level of being sexually harassed, the fight isn’t about the individual opening the door to a young professional in underwear, the fight is much deeper, and that is why many more men and women relate to it and rally for change, even if it is so myopic that it has to be only for sexual harassment victims.

The fight is about subjugation, it is about supressing the voices of the non-powerful, it is about equality and it is about fairness. It doesn’t matter if a women says she was sexually harassed by an all-powerful boss, what matter is the way systematically and culturally she was denied justice, what matters is the feeling that she lived with every day that she is a inferior human being in her own country.

This is what I relate to, and this is what countless other relates to, it is not only about sexual harassment, it is about the mindset of supressing the voices and the volcano that needs to erupt before the voice is heard. Every person would have faced this torture, and their heart cries out to the Sexual Harassment victims saying, I too suffer along with you, I too am reminded everyday that I am an inferior soul, and I stand by you in the hope that we will eventually, one day, be able to speak up against oppression and live a life of equality.

MeToo isn’t about sexual harassment alone, it is about countless others too who go through various forms of suppression at their workplace and are supressed, terminated, bullied, harassed or transferred just because they dare to be equals.

Corporate India’s fancy titled Global Heads need to look at their justice dispensing systems and not at winning a Diversity Award. It is time corporate India became a little accountable about humanity and equality towards their employees.

Mandeep Singh is a Partner with HRhelpdesk, a Boutique Human Resource Consulting firm.

Comments

GEETA BISHT
It's a good movement, catching momentum. But surely lacks support system for commoner, only high profile cases are heard
GEETA BISHT
It's a good movement, catching momentum. But surely lacks support system for commoner, only high profile cases are heard
Amit G
So this means stop hiring female employees, because if you hire them, and even if they are under-performing, and if you question the performance, you may be or you'll be called a harasser! Things which you talk to female employees in general discussion, which is taken very lightly at that time, at later stage that becomes issue of harassment, if you call-off non-performance.
Prabhat
It's always good but misuse of this moment needs to be tracked as we all know ,not every complainant can be genuine. There can be people waiting to misuse it and bully there opponents by using the advantage of Metoo
Subodh
if Men can behave like pure Gentlemen who should respect females and should not eye them differently. Equality is very important and one should follow. Why make comments which we know are not correct and we make it just to impress the females or show our dominance on them. ME too is good tool for women to raise this kind of cheap and dirty behavior of men towards women. but currently it is used by only crowd which can access internet and understand the power of media. ME TOO like tools should be hugely populated to the remote locations of India where still female is sex toy and kitchen worker for men.
MS
This is not real. Most of the cases are fake in this Mee Too Campaign.
Rajakumar
Me too is really a need of the hour for all working women safety and freedom in India. So far evidences are not required by law to justify women who are affected, but in techno savvy world, hereafter a proper evidence is to be mandatory to justify those harassments
Ashok Sharma
It is a vindictive vendetta seeking move perpetuated by people who want to bring others down because they couldn’t reach to those heights themselves. In today’s times women are an equally competent and equally intelligent being as any men. While in our villages and rural towns this may still not be the reality yet but the cities have changed dramatically. Personally, I have not only seen and observed several many instances of acute exploitation by women seeking to settle scores with their male counterparts or bosses just because things didn’t go their way. I have seen very closely the use of Sexual Harassment accusations by a vindictive female professional to settle personal scores with a top executive and the top executive had to go through living hell daily for 5 years trying to prove his innocence without giving up. This lady in picture later not only wanted to withdraw all charges but also wanted to admit an apology if the concerned top executive was ready to pay her some money in the end because the top executive just didn’t crumble unlike others who may settle such cases out of court to protect their careers. In between several so called Women Empqoering NGOs throughput Mumbai were blindly supporting this lady and threatened the top executive and his company of dire consequences multiple times. There was a huge display of muscle power and timing of the Vishakha Judgement utilised by them continuously. The top executive was not only innocent but a man of high moral ground and ethics so he fought it till the end and ultimately won the battle in last lap but he had to pass through a huge unwarranted testing time only because of a lying, manipulative and vindictive woman who was out to seek revenge.
Debashish
Me Too has been partially misused . The fine line of friendly banter and sexual harassment has been blurred . Combine this with an opportunity to be vengeful could make it a very dangerous environment for diverse working environment . The male gender feels highly on the defensive . The prime objective is to avoid exploitation and retardation of behaviour .
Purushotham
Its only an emotional out bust of some individuals and try to hide themselves in "MeToo"
Deepak
It is good move will help in creating awareness & give courage for the victims to come out & voice it. No mean No.... people in power & position must understand this ... db
Harsh
It is misused by some female individuals to coverup thier inability or mistake.. Out 100 only 1 case may be genuine
Renold
The incidents experienced by the other sex cannot be judged by others. So i can only express solidarity. Today's flirting can be judged as sexual harassment tomorrow. So people of other sex should be formal in their communication with colleagues.
Magesh
Creating an huge awareness on Woman facing the issues in the society in day to day life
Raju
A chance to fight against crime., then it is great., otherwise the barter become bitter that's why
Amal Chatterjee
It's about time. Some men - not all, but many with authority, power, even those with little - have been bullying and harassing women, considering it one of the privileges of their positions.
LA
It is not a good impact as it is a matter of taking revenge or insulting
Priya Jaiswal
i don't have any about this
Sandeep
Its really scary, any one can put any allegation on the other person. Byepassing the legal system.
Deb Sengupta
to be honest, most of the acquisition are from history some may be 'true', some are with mutual consent and misused with some untrue stories. Respecting women dignity should be utmost and should not be exploited while many cases are also came with false stories or personal enmity as well. We need to mature a society and wise to support based on real merits .
Sandeep Kumar
I think it's true that women is being harassed in all over the world at least once.But there could some fake cases also. I completely agree with that woman in India is not at safe too when it comes out to working in my different industries sadly. Sandeep Kumar
Charu
This comment makes no sense punishment is based on luck, time, criteria? Never heard of such a thing. Punishment means you are wrong and u r punished, regardless. Not ok to jeopardise someone’s reputation, and future.
Someone
MeToo is bullshit. Coming up years later and reporting what they did to you (conveniently hiding what you gained by cooperating or by keeping silent) is just cowardly. If you had the guts, speak up then and there, and be willing to face the consequences, and face the loss of opportunities. After taking full advantage at that time, making your money, and when there's nothing more to be gained, then using MeToo to gain popularity and sympathy is just cheap! All the above is true, if you had to compromise to grow in your career, or make money from it. If someone has harrassed you, for no reason, then my arguments dont hold valid. Anyway, corporate circles are now very very afraid. I hire thousands of people, and now I'm very cautious. Many employers in India, discreetly tell their managers to go with men candidates. Who has the time to have witnesses all the while? This is sheer opportunism by women.
Reema
Me Too can be a powerful thing and there is no discrimination. however we have made it about women. Men are more than welcome to come forward but due to societal pressure and image issue men aren't coming forward. I do agree that the Judgmental mentality is a hindrance however should not be indicative of the seriousness of the issue either ways. It also stands true that some people might take advantage of the movement however like not all fingers are equal so it is for the stories. Media (any) should be used responsibly. It can have strong positive impact on the society, given it is handled responsibly.
Monika
Sexual harassment is very much prevalent in Indian work environment. I have also experienced it. When females who are going through any such harassment complaint about it to the HR or escalate it further to higher management, they turn deaf towards their issues. Also they get sidelined & finally have to leave their job. I have also faced similar situation in couple of workspaces.Me too movement is relevant though we need to see if the right females are coming forward. Are the victims speaking up or not.
Aishwarya Panikar
#MeToo has become the platform to unveil the ruinous experiences those went through victims in various circumstances. To an extent it has encouraged people to speak out their disgusting stories and reveal forged faces of many VIP’s. Truly supporting the aggrieved ones but cannot take all the instances to granted. Any new consequences occur, some intentional advantages are taken by people . Such cheap publicity stunts dire the dignity of true stories. According to me, #MeToo drive is carving Indian social systems as well as living stories.
Vidya
It is good in a way that women are being vocal about sexual harassment. At the same time rather only tweeting about it they should approach it through legal means and the legal system should be effective enough to bring the person to justice
T Sindhu
Me Too very super act for women ..but all are women honestly complans will be requierd. my dear girls don't fears ..any complans tell about social media
Shweta
Sometimes it is helpful for people to know about women who actually get harassed but dear girls do you know that boys at teenage also get harassed .....yes one boy was getting harassed .I saw a boy at his teenage ,was getting beaten by people . I looked into the matter and people told me that he was holding girls duppata . Actually that was just misunderstanding and that duppata was stuck at the door nearby .people could see it but ignored it and started beating him. Please people first confirm who is getting harassed #me too
Vijaya
Metoo movement is absolutely necessary. Here is my account: three years ago, I was working in a reputed MNC with 3Lakh employees. Four fresher gals were facing harrassment, inappropriate touching and verbal abuse from thier Lead. These gals went and reported to HR and also management in office. Inspite of the fact that they gave written complaint, still they were summoned several times and further harrassed by management and HR. The solution they gave was, these gals were moved to another team. The same year the harrasor got promoted as manager. Meanwhile I left the company. This is the reason why gals don't speak out. And if they are speaking after many years listen to them.
Tanya Johri
Its a fact that if a girls opens up about an incident she has to face the repercussions.
Yashodha
Most of celebrity are using this sit and common people thinking is it really true or not? No impact Really harassment happened immidiate react ofter so many year giving statement with midia it's not good people misusing this Me Too
Aishwarya Panikar
#MeToo has become the platform to unveil the ruinous experiences those went through victims in various circumstances. To an extent it has encouraged people to speak out their disgusting stories and reveal forged faces of many VIP’s. Truly supporting the aggrieved ones but cannot take all the instances to granted. Any new consequences occur, some intentional advantages are taken by people . Such cheap publicity stunts dire the dignity of true stories. According to me, #MeToo drive is carving Indian social systems as well as living stories.
Ayushi Jain
Work of MeToo surely not bad...& it will be a great worth. & Surely the email accounts of working women should be kept secured for unwanted harassment.
Niyati Mehrotra
I think we should hear the stories of both the sides and if there was any sexual assault then the one should report at that time only
Simmy
IT IS GREAT OPPORTUNITY
Sushma
Women had a chance to talk about their harassment faced in their daily lives
Sharmila
S it's important but have to prove proper evidence is must ....
No Name
its great
Pooja
It's really a good initiative. Though, it's very important to implement it carefully so that it could not be misused by anyone.
Jaswinder Prem Kaur
I don't think it's really gonna help women.....
Saryu
Real stories didn't come yet though so many are shy to express and some issues with families.. me too is a good moment about sexual abuse or harrasement. And poorly some girls or women who are having grudge or some personal problem with the guys missues the me too moment. It is the platform to make Indian women or girls to free of sexual abuse at all stations. Yes it impacts.. so many will fear of doing sexual abuse by this moment will arises..
Saryu
Real stories didn't come yet though so many are shy to express and some issues with families.. me too is a good moment about sexual abuse or harrasement. And poorly some girls or women who are having grudge or some personal problem with the guys missues the me too moment. It is the platform to make Indian women or girls to free of sexual abuse at all stations. Yes it impacts.. so many will fear of doing sexual abuse by this moment will arises..
Saryu
Real stories didn't come yet though so many are shy to express and some issues with families.. me too is a good moment about sexual abuse or harrasement. And poorly some girls or women who are having grudge or some personal problem with the guys missues the me too moment. It is the platform to make Indian women or girls to free of sexual abuse at all stations. Yes it impacts.. so many will fear of doing sexual abuse by this moment will arises..
Lakshmi
Good
Meenu Sharma
What is a mean women has been saying now , why they did not put that matter on that time , In man domicile society woman always harassment by man and they do not care why they care for it because in their home also woman ,who are Baba's kamjor , lachaz etc we can say , woman ne aadmi ko sir per bitha rakha h if they learn protest in little miskes ,big mistake may be not happend . It's a need for women awareness about herself and respect all woman to eachother and understand woman is first in world after other than
Ayushi Jain
Work of MeToo surely not bad...& it will be a great worth. & Surely the email accounts of working women should be kept secured for unwanted harassment.
Preety
I strongly believe that MeToo provides a platform to women to openly speak about their grievances and harassments they face in their daily lives. But, unfortunately, it has been misused by some women in order to gain popularity and publicize themselves. I'm really saddened to see that such a platform which could have brought about a major change in India for women safety has been distorted and used by some for their selfish atrocities.
rashmi verma
This is a positive change in our society
Shweta
It is posing a threatening & Dangerous as well as very adverse & wrong impact in the society, as it includes more and more of Children & young people, whose brains are affected by such news. It is all the time highlighted in the news and there is no control on these new channels & social media which is, Deteriorating the people's Mentality or Mental Health, it is affecting young and small's minds, rather giving them good news and Great examples of the society, what will those half dressed actresses get by blaming people ( men) this way, when they themselves like to provoke men around them and get paid for this social show off. It is affecting Society's brains Adversely, without anything good for it.
Dr Rina Mukherji
High time we had a movement like this. Women have endured workplace and street harassment for far too long.
Dr Rina Mukherji
High time we had a movement like this. Women have endured workplace and street harassment for far too long.
Lozima
It's gained a certain momentum but apart from the entertainment industry i haven't heard about any major act of speaking out and redemption in the other areas of the society.
Deepa Mehta
This is a very good initiative. It's a platform for all women & girls to speak up about their emotions towards sexual harassment.And it would be a big lesson for all those dirty mind men.
Hardeep
Not only about subjugation...also about 'look at me'.. There are platforms which now grant an individual a voice. And, if 'different', likes and forwards. For good or for bad comes later. And the more likes/views one gets the more valuable/ validated one feels. Which is why you have people dangling from the poles- getting likes - and in the process 'inspiring' others. Expect more to happen, and in more brazen forms. Metoo is one variation of it. Fact is, any consensual transaction is a two way process . And many metoos are simply a withdrawal of consent after the fact. Which will not hold in a court. As is already planning out.
Subrata Chanda
#metoo who has taken the indian society by storm is something great and probably has come in at a great time however I am sure the way women have been taking the undue advantage of some of the IPC laws needs to be pondered upon, the way women's been treated so far was not good news at all. We have been talking about sexually harrassment which women today are also doing more to men than before. Metoo tomorrow will have more subjects, metoo should not only be associated with women. It should be associated with men and transgender too., Bridging the gap across genders......we have yet to make famous of men international day, whatever said and done....we need to bridge the gap between us, else there will always be the gap and that the problem. Happy men international day
Anita
its a good eye opener...at least prospective predators will be careful not to indulge in any kind of dirty advances towards women..including passing filthy comments
Nav Kaur
I think it's true that women is being harassed in all over the world at least once. I m also one of them unfortunately but there could some fake cases also. I completely agree with that woman in India is not at safe too when it comes out to working in my different industries sadly.
Babyshan
Its very important to feel secure women in the society but unfortunately it is not happening Its very sad .So it is everyone responsibility to make change in the society.
Kavitha
This is a good initiative. Females who cannot let out their pent up emotions towards sexual harassment can do through this initiative. As a female in most organisations even i have face with harassment issues. If it did really has a positive impact , yes then we are in. Care should be taken that it is not used for negative purpose
Mitna
Metoo is a really helpful were women are get to spoken about the bothering and I really support for the metoo and I feel a real impact nowadays while travelling and being with people and looking forward to have a safe india and remove name india from the list of top 50 dangerous country.
Srujana
It is for good cause, need to change

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